I have been on my journey of personal growth and discovery for over 8 years now. I have read many books, been to many seminars, had many sessions with coaches and healers and experienced very profound and powerful shifts through meditation, sound healing and so many other modalities. But I have to say that one of the most important lessons I have learned to date that continually is applied to my life is one that came from a very special book unlike any other books I have read.
The book is called The Journey Home: A Kryon Parable: The Story of Michael Thomas and the 7 Angels authored by Lee Carol and it spoke to me on so many levels, teaching me very powerful spiritual lessons that I have integrated deeply in my life, but the one that stood out the most was the idea that things are not always as they seem.
I believe it is human nature to get excited when we come across something new that we have yet to experience, witness or learn. But often times the excitement is derived from something we don’t already have, or think we have, and are striving to achieve.
Whether it is the possibility of a new work opportunity, friendship, romantic relationship, etc. there usually tends to be that initial level of excitement that in many cases creates this “high” that is quite thrilling to experience. Sometimes this high and intrigue can last days, weeks and maybe even months, but the reality is it eventually dissipates and you return back down to earth. Unfortunately what tends to follow is a feeling of disappointment or let down.
For me, the past couple of years have brought me countless opportunities to learn this lesson over and over again. I used to be someone who truly believed everything that I initially saw and felt. Whether it was professionally or personally in all areas of my life I was always getting swept away by the possibility of every situation. Whether it was a new program opportunity or a hot date with a new girl that seemed intriguing, I would come home from the experience flying high on life.
The challenge with this was that my initial feelings of excitement were not always right or sustainable, and I ended up facing a lot of disappointment when I discovered down the road that the situation, relationship or opportunity did not unfold in the ways that I had hoped or anticipated.
My most recent experience with this was with a potential speaking and training opportunity with a school in Calgary that did not end up turning out in the way that I thought it would.
After getting off the initial phone call I was thrilled for the opportunity to work with another amazing school, travel across the country, and for the first time in a long time I did not face any push back on budget (which is definitely an anomaly with schools). I was so excited about it that I texted my good friend who lives in Calgary, told her there was a good chance I would be coming out to visit next month, and even started browsing flights online.
As the next few days turned into a week and I didn’t hear back from the school, I started to feel some doubt creep in and I responded how habitually I am used to responding: by pushing and persisting to get a clear answer.
But this time around instead of continuing to push I realized what I was doing and I took a step back to reflect and see if that approach was really going to serve my highest good in this scenario. And the clear answer was absolutely not.
I decided to implement a different approach and came up with the idea that I am not supposed to confirm or close any work opportunity, as that is the job of the uni-verse. My job was and is to see and feel things for what they are in each and every moment, pursue my greatest passion and vision with inspired action, and NOT create a story about what it could be or what may be possible.
You see every time we create a story about something outside of what is real in the moment, it creates expectations. And expectations most always lead to disappointment. My job was to surrender to the process and truly embrace that what I saw or felt initially may not be what actually happens. BUT, what does happen is always going to be for my highest and best good.
After putting this to practice, the opportunity to travel and work in Calgary ended up not going through. BUT, the most beautiful thing about this was that I was not devastated, upset, or even slightly disappointed!
I realized that the lesson I learned from reading that book was not just that things are not always as they seem but also was about learning to not create expectations when I saw, felt or experienced exciting opportunities. It was about staying grounded and centered no matter how exciting things appeared to be. It was about becoming more discerning by seeing and feeling with more depth than my eyes could initially provide.
Moving forward, can I honestly say that I won’t experience disappointment anymore? ABSOLUTELY NOT! But what I can say is that living by the mantra things are not always as they seem has definitely given me a deeper understanding of what is true and what is not, a stronger ability to discern, and the opportunity to feel deeply grateful for each and every experience, for what they are in the moment… and nothing more!